Some people think that love is a luxury which requires a lot of effort. Some people think that love is a necessity which comes easily. Everyone has varying levels of ambitiousness when they’re looking for love. But what if, during an uncertain time in your life, you come across someone? Would you pursue it or would you give up? To answer this question, we conducted a survey of over 2,000 users. Same expectation, different concerns The survey found that 74.3% of men and 62.1% of women would take the initiative…
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Everything you want to know, 2RedBeans Matchmaking Q&A Issue #1 This new year, our 2RedBeans matchmaking team are taking these questions from our clients and answering them for you using real-world scenarios while providing a thorough analysis. We hope everyone can gain some insight and inspiration from our matchmakers! Q1: Confessing their love on the first date? Are they for real? When Ms. M met Mr. D for their first date, D confessed his love for her. They talked on and off during dinner. The atmosphere felt cold. Three hours…
Before a date, you may have come across a few of these dilemmas: Making a reservation at a chic dining hurts the wallet, but will I seem insincere if I just make a reservation at a normal restaurant? Should I prepare a small gift for the first date? What should be the price range of that gift? If the date goes well, does that mean I should not date other people anymore? When we date with the mindset of getting into a relationship in mind, there will be a period…
Across social media over the past month was a viral video of a man in Hangzhou rushing home on his bike late at night to give his keys to his girlfriend. Police stopped him for cycling haphazardly all over the road. He ended up having an emotional breakdown because all he wanted was to deliver the keys and get back to work. This video is the embodiment of the “996” culture in China. In China, “996” refers to a 9 am to 9 pm workday that lasts 6 days a…
According to Divorce Magazine, in America, about 45 to 50 percent of married women and 50 to 60 percent of married men have cheated on their spouses. 70% of couples, however, actually stay together after an affair is discovered. What does this forgiveness entail? Will the marriage ever return to normal? Forgiveness is an option after accepting the truth Married couples realize that life isn’t just a fairytale after the wedding. Some relationships become stronger after marriage while others falter as time passes. Differences in living habits, values and a…
Congratulations! You finally scored that date, but where should both of you go? The matchmakers at 2RedBeans have done painstaking research and are ready to present to you the top places to go on a date in San Francisco. Our matchmakers have provided their favorite spots too! The best restaurants for brunch: Surisan: Have a casual date and indulge in Surisan’s American breakfast favorites, with a Korean twist. Piccino: Enjoy a hearty Italian brunch that also boasts a coffee bar! Home Plate: Take a break from the bustle of San…
On June 6, Taiwanese model Lin Chi-ling announced her marriage with Japanese boy band member Akira, who is 7 years younger than her. For many years, people thought Chi-ling would eventually get back together with Jerry Yan, a member of the Taiwanese pop group F4. On a variety show that aired in Taiwan years ago, Lin couldn’t hold back her tears when she heard that Jerry wrote a book about their childhood and their close relationship. Looking back on that episode years later, Jerry couldn’t help but feel a sense…
Back in May 2017, a research paper published under China’s Institute of Sociology and the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences brought to light the change in marriage patterns among young adults in China’s modern society. Comparing the 1990s, 2000s, and 2010s, attitudes began to shift. According to the study, just 13.3% of marriages recorded in the 1990s involved a younger groom. 70% of marriages involved a younger bride. In the 2000s, there was a slight change. 68.1% of marriages studied involved a younger bride while 14.4% involved a younger groom.…
A tweet on January 9 announced the divorce of Jeff Bezos and MacKenzie Bezos. On April 4, their divorce was finalized thus ending a 26-year marriage. MacKenzie still holds $35.6 billion worth of Amazon stock but gave up voting rights to Jeff. Her calm and collectedness during the divorce proceedings were met with confusion. How was this possible when she was seceding so much control of Amazon, the world’s largest e-commerce site? We argue it’s because she is a truly independent woman who takes control of her own happiness without…
In a relationship, taking initiative is an indication of commitment. Today, we like to share the success story of Yoki, a high-end matchmaking client of 2RedBeans. He is just… ‘average looking’ Like any woman, Yoki has high expectations for her future husband. He has to be at least three to five years older than her, at least 5’11 tall, and have a stable career. She listed these requirements during her first interview with our matchmaker Jessica. Yoki’s expectations are understandable. She herself is 5’6, worked extremely hard to build her…
It is often enviable to see couples loving each other equally. In reality, however, the number of couples who can love each other equally is very little. This situation often bothers us: between us, who is loving the other side more? As such, we have to make a choice: to love your partner more, prefer to be loved more, or choosing to accept a relationship where both sides love each other equally. We gathered the opinions of 2RedBeans’ users (we had over 1000 respondents!) and below are the results. The…
Chinese Valentine’s Day has come and gone. In your friends’ WeChat feeds, you may have seen this: friends getting diamond rings and friends getting engaged. When you take a closer look, you may see something incredible. “Her fiance looks as tall as her! I thought she only wanted to date someone who was at least 6 feet!” “His fiancee isn’t as pretty as his past girlfriends!”” To the “dismay” of everyone, they seem to be truly in love. Jokes aside, what happened to their initial requirements? We often set standards…
At 2RedBeans, users often come to us feeling confused about what they should do on their first dates. Most questions revolve around where they should eat. They don’t want to overlook a single detail so they can leave their best first impression. “Should we go for Asian or American food?” “Should we go for afternoon tea instead of dinner?” “Should I dress more formally or casually?” First, before choosing the restaurant, pause and think about it from your date’s perspective. Based on our experience, we think that your date will…
Crazy Rich Asians has been receiving critical acclaim since its premiere last week and is currently sitting at the top of the box office. The story depicts an American-born Chinese lady, Rachel Chu, who agreed to spend her summer with her boyfriend, Nicholas Young, in Singapore. Little did she know that this summer break would turn out to be one of the dramatic one that she will ever experience in her life. As the first Hollywood film in 25 years featuring an almost all Asian-American cast, it’s re-ignited the public’s…
“My entire life I’ve devoted to my son.” This is what 39-year-old actor Yuchen Zhu’s 71-year-old mother said in the reality show My Little One (《我家那小子》). Just how true is that statement? Zhu’s mother described how, for the last 10 years, she wakes up at 4:00 am every morning just to boil him fresh pear juice and then cook his meals for the rest of the day. She says that the amount of work she does for the family is equivalent to that of two maids. And, although she had…
Some people say that true love is scarce. In your search for someone you truly love and who truly loves you, you might end up with someone who just barely meets your ‘requirements’... Here's the success story of Daniel and Rachael, who met each other through 2RedBeans. Daniel found himself single a year ago. His breakup devastated him. On top of that, he was reassigned to another department where he had to take on more responsibilities. It was stressful; he clocked in more than ten hours every day, overloading himself…
It’s often said that, in a relationship, it’s best to openly share things from the past with the one in your present. To sustain a relationship, you’ve got to be transparent with your partner. According to Psychology Today, a lack of emotional intimacy can compromise your partner’s sense of well-being. To find out opinions on the topic of past relationships, 2RedBeans asked our users if they would talk about their past relationships with their partner, which stage of the relationship should they be in before talking about them, their willingness…
They never thought they would be considered ‘leftover men’ here in the United States. Coming from solid family backgrounds and armed with degrees from top schools, these men are unquestionably outstanding, according to China’s standards. They studied hard and worked diligently to get to where they are today. Now in their 30s, they are filled with a desire to settle down and start a family. However, the reality is, it’s not as easy as they thought it would be... Let us share the stories of these three outstanding single men…
Some people have come up with a checklist for their future partners. They must be… A graduate from a prestigious school, They must possess a Doctorate degree, They must either have filed Form I-485 or possess a green card. Our matchmakers sometimes stumble upon clients who impose strict requirements on their ideal marriage partner. “I want someone who must possess xxx qualities.” They insist on not one, but a few must-have qualities before they agree to meet their date. Things can get pretty awkward for our matchmakers because of this.…