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After graduating with a PhD in Pharmacology, a classmate introduced a guy who works in the financial industry to her. In order to make a good first impression, she made “active” preparations. Considering that he works in Manhattan where women are fashionable, she bought a sexy short skirt and changed her look entirely. Then, she also tried to cram in on financial knowledge, even though she had never even opened a stock account before. On the day of the date, before he could even speak a word, she talked about her investment experience in the past six months. She wanted to create an image of a mature, intelligent and independent woman. Unexpectedly to her, the dating experience was extremely embarrassing. Her date didn’t say much, but left with an excuse in a hurry. Afterwards, her classmate who introduced them got a feedback from her date that she was very different from the initial information he got.

Sending a good first message is important if you want to attract the person you approach online or meet in real life.   Here are three steps for crafting your first message: 1. Include their name “Hi, Cindy!” or “Good afternoon, Ben!” Addressing them by name will start building rapport immediately and give off a good first impression. 2. Write sincere and meaningful compliments  “I love your eyes in the pictures with you smiling. They really brighten my day!”  Everyday compliments won’t attract someone’s attention. Try to point out something…

Have you ever experienced this? Awkward conversations on dates or conversations that never goes deeper? Psychologist Arthur Aron has developed a solution. 36 personal questions that will help you to get to know each other better. Research shows that intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated if both are willing to share personal details. If you want to know more about the 36 Questions, or if you have any other questions about dating or relationships, click here to make an appointment with a professional matchmaker from 2RedBeans! Below are the…

Data released by the National Bureau of Statistics and Ministry of Civil Affairs shows that the marriage rate among unmarried people is at a 5 year low of 7.2‰. Conversely, the divorce rate has been increasing steadily for the past 7 years. Nearly 40% of marriages do not last more than 2 years. According to research by China’s Justice Big Data Research Institute on 1.4 million divorce cases, the top reason for a divorce is incompatibility, which stands at 77.51%. This number far exceeds the second top reason for a…

Finding someone who’s outstanding in their profession? Easy. Finding someone who can take care of you? Easy. But can you find someone who you can truly understand you? Why do we place so much importance on the need to understand your other half? When someone understands you for you who are, you will then have the freedom to be yourself A friend of a matchmaker at 2RedBeans recently relocated to San Francisco for work. This brought her into a long distance relationship with her boyfriend, who works in New York…

“My Little One”, an entertainment show airing in Hunan, recently received a lot of attention. The show invites the fathers of female celebrities to watch the everyday lives of their daughters. As all of these women are single, it was inevitable that the discussions among the dads would center around this fact. Miss Xin, who is turning 35 this year, was one of the celebrities getting the most attention. Her career has plateaued and she’s had no luck with relationships. She’s worried about career advancement and about how marriage and…

This 520, 2RedBeans had a “Makeover for Singles” event to help answer your relationship and dating questions. With more than 600 responses, there was a large variety of questions asked. We grouped these questions into five main topics and had our matchmakers answer them for you. Our matchmakers may have the answers you’re looking for This week, we will be picking one lucky winner who will receive our high-end matchmaking consultation service valued at $3500. Questions involving communication Q: How long should I chat on dating app before meeting the…

Have you ever looked through profiles on 2RedBeans and noticed a few people with photos that looked different from their other photos? As if their photos were of two completely different people? How do you know which photo is the one that is truly representative of themselves? We discovered that when people swipe through profiles, the photo they believe represents the person is the one that looks “most realistic”. However, when our matchmakers met clients who had profiles on 2RedBeans, they realized most of them looked better in real life…

During every post-date consultation, our 2RedBeans matchmakers often receive feedback and comments such as: “Hmm… We had a nice conversation, but I’m still unsure if she is suitable for me since I didn’t feel anything special about her…” “He takes the initiative and we have been on a few dates, but I still feel that I don’t know him well…” To most people, the tough part about dates is the fact that they are unsure if their dates are suitable for them. They get along with their date well enough,…

“He’s a pretty good guy and I would say our date went pretty well. However, that’s it.” This isn’t the first time the matchmaking team at 2RedBeans has heard stories like this after our clients’ dates. It usually happens to those who don’t have as much dating experience. In part, this results from a misunderstanding between two people. Mostly, it stems from a lack of understanding of oneself. Before we go out and search for that special someone, we need to ask ourselves, “Who am I really?” Only after truly…

On the show “My Little One’, Papi酱, a famous YouTuber, made a comment about how one should prioritize their life. She believed they should go in this order: Yourself, your partner, your children, your parents. Why does she think this way? She reasoned you spend the most time with yourself. The next person to take up most of your time is your partner since your children and parents won’t be around you forever. The response on social media was not good with many saying she was thinking selfishly. Papi’s comment…

Valentine’s Day is here again. Every year, one of our colleagues gets together with their closest friends to have dinner. Every year, the subject of Valentine’s Day comes up. Last week was no exception. You can probably guess that everyone was sharing their plans. Some were talking about pre-ordering Tiffany, Cartier and Swarovski for their girlfriends. Others were talking about their reservations at Michelin star restaurants. When they asked Tina about her plans with Jim, her boyfriend, she simply said, “ We’re spending Valentine’s Day at home.” No one was…

Last November, 2RedBeans organized an event for Single’s Day called the Koi Event. We gave out a Lucky Koi Package to one winner. This package included a free 30-minute consultation with our matchmakers, a guaranteed date per week until the end of 2018 and feedback after every one of the dates. Our lucky winner was Shawn, a recent Ph.D. graduate working as a software engineer in the Bay Area. When we first met Shawn, he had very little experience dating but in just two months, Shawn found himself a girlfriend!…

“Why didn’t he ask for my opinion before choosing the restaurant?” “Why does it take him a day to reply to my messages?” “She dressed up so casually for our date. Was I like that as well?” “She left right after she finished her coffee. She probably didn’t have a good impression of me..” Our clients at 2RedBeans often tell us that their dates don’t seem to “live up to their expectations.” We’d like to share the realities of expectations we have for our dates and what we should do…

Everything you want to know, 2RedBeans Matchmaking Q&A Issue #1 This new year, our 2RedBeans matchmaking team are taking these questions from our clients and answering them for you using real-world scenarios while providing a thorough analysis. We hope everyone can gain some insight and inspiration from our matchmakers! Q1: Confessing their love on the first date? Are they for real? When Ms. M met Mr. D for their first date, D confessed his love for her. They talked on and off during dinner. The atmosphere felt cold. Three hours…

According to Divorce Magazine, in America, about 45 to 50 percent of married women and 50 to 60 percent of married men have cheated on their spouses. 70% of couples, however, actually stay together after an affair is discovered. What does this forgiveness entail? Will the marriage ever return to normal? Forgiveness is an option after accepting the truth Married couples realize that life isn’t just a fairytale after the wedding. Some relationships become stronger after marriage while others falter as time passes. Differences in living habits, values and a…