She was engaged after a month after seeing happiness and stability with him

In a relationship, taking initiative is an indication of commitment. Today, we like to share the success story of Yoki, a high-end matchmaking client of 2RedBeans. He is just…  ‘average looking’ Like any woman, Yoki has high expectations for her future husband. He has to be at least three to five years older than her, at least 5’11 tall, and have a stable career. She listed these requirements during her first interview with our matchmaker Jessica. Yoki’s expectations are understandable. She herself is 5’6, worked extremely hard to build her…

This article was originally posted on datingadvice.com, a leading resource site featuring daily articles from renowned experts, Q&A sessions, research studies, a lively forum on all things dating.  The Short Version: For Chinese singles living overseas, dating can be an incredibly frustrating balance between honoring traditional values and integrating modern, international styles. Many online dating sites and apps are too casual for Chinese daters or focus too much on hooking up and not enough on finding like-minded, long-term partners. That’s why 2RedBeans was founded. As a Chinese dating platform with more than 1.3…

It is often enviable to see couples loving each other equally. In reality, however, the number of couples who can love each other equally is very little. This situation often bothers us: between us, who is loving the other side more? As such, we have to make a choice: to love your partner more, prefer to be loved more, or choosing to accept a relationship where both sides love each other equally. We gathered the opinions of 2RedBeans’ users (we had over 1000 respondents!) and below are the results. The…

Women who refused to date men under 5’11’’ but became attached. How did it happen?

Chinese Valentine’s Day has come and gone. In your friends’ WeChat feeds, you may have seen this: friends getting diamond rings and friends getting engaged. When you take a closer look, you may see something incredible. “Her fiance looks as tall as her! I thought she only wanted to date someone who was at least 6 feet!” “His fiancee isn’t as pretty as his past girlfriends!”” To the “dismay” of everyone, they seem to be truly in love. Jokes aside, what happened to their initial requirements? We often set standards…

At 2RedBeans, users often come to us feeling confused about what they should do on their first dates. Most questions revolve around where they should eat. They don’t want to overlook a single detail so they can leave their best first impression. “Should we go for Asian or American food?” “Should we go for afternoon tea instead of dinner?” “Should I dress more formally or casually?” First, before choosing the restaurant, pause and think about it from your date’s perspective. Based on our experience, we think that your date will…

“Crazy Rich Asians”: When art imitates life

Crazy Rich Asians has been receiving critical acclaim since its premiere last week and is currently sitting  at the top of the box office. The story depicts an American-born Chinese lady, Rachel Chu, who agreed to spend her summer with her boyfriend, Nicholas Young, in Singapore. Little did she know that this summer break would turn out to be one of the dramatic one that she will ever experience in her life. As the first Hollywood film in 25 years featuring an almost all Asian-American cast, it’s re-ignited the public’s…

“I love you with all my heart”: Do parents get involved in your relationship problems?

“My entire life I’ve devoted to my son.” This is what 39-year-old actor Yuchen Zhu’s 71-year-old mother said in the reality show My Little One  (《我家那小子》). Just how true is that statement? Zhu’s mother described how, for the last 10 years, she wakes up at 4:00 am every morning just to boil him fresh pear juice and then cook his meals for the rest of the day. She says that the amount of work she does for the family is equivalent to that of two maids. And, although she had…

Some people say that true love is scarce. In your search for someone you truly love and who truly loves you, you might end up with someone who just barely meets your ‘requirements’... Here's the success story of Daniel and Rachael, who met each other through 2RedBeans. Daniel found himself single a year ago. His breakup devastated him. On top of that, he was reassigned to another department where he had to take on more responsibilities. It was stressful; he clocked in more than ten hours every day, overloading himself…

It’s often said that, in a relationship, it’s best to openly share things from the past with the one in your present. To sustain a relationship, you’ve got to be transparent with your partner. According to Psychology Today, a lack of emotional intimacy can compromise your partner’s sense of well-being. To find out opinions on the topic of past relationships, 2RedBeans asked our users if they would talk about their past relationships with their partner, which stage of the relationship should they be in before talking about them, their willingness…

They never thought they would be considered ‘leftover men’ here in the United States. Coming from solid family backgrounds and armed with degrees from top schools, these men are unquestionably outstanding, according to China’s standards. They studied hard and worked diligently to get to where they are today. Now in their 30s, they are filled with a desire to settle down and start a family. However, the reality is, it’s not as easy as they thought it would be... Let us share the stories of these three outstanding single men…

Some people have  come up with a checklist for their future partners. They must be… A graduate from a prestigious school, They must possess a Doctorate degree, They must either have filed Form I-485 or possess a green card. Our matchmakers sometimes stumble upon clients who impose strict requirements on their ideal marriage partner. “I want someone who must possess xxx qualities.” They insist on not one, but a few must-have qualities before they agree to meet their date. Things can get pretty awkward for our matchmakers because of this.…

In the past, moving in with your partner before marriage was thought of as immoral. However, these days it’s become so common that two thirds of couples have lived together beforehand. The perks of moving in with your partner before marriage can’t be denied. You get to experience first hand what it’s like living together and it can even serve as a trial run before the actual marriage. However, the success of your cohabitation may depend entirely on how early or late you move in together! 2RedBeans asked our users…

At 2RedBeans, we have a group of good-looking young professionals, known as our 2RedBeans’ matchmakers. They comb through our database, make and take phone calls, and conduct countless interviews just so our clients can meet the person they’re looking for. Come take a look at our matchmaking team’s office and find out what they do every day! Step 1: Letting you know that they are here to help. “Hi, I’m a matchmaker for 2RedBeans!” At 2RedBeans, people always tell us how their long hours, small social circles or their busy…

‘Why do my dates always seem to go wrong?” “I just can’t score that second date!” “I’m a masters graduate, but I can’t seem to find a girlfriend…” As you probably may have guessed, you might have overlooked the small details that happened during your date! Simultaneously talking and chewing your food, ex-boyfriend discussions… the list goes on. Often, such small details can make or break your date. As such, 2RedBeans presents a series of videos on the dos and don’ts  for your dates! 1. Ordering Etiquette 2. Dining Etiquette…

You are bursting with excitement; you are about to meet your first date! She looks absolutely gorgeous and stunning from her profile photos. You can’t seem to contain your excitement as you walk into your meeting place. As you glance around, you see someone waving at you, but she looks horrifyingly unfamiliar. With the prevalence of beautifying filters in apps, it's common for people to "enhance" their physical appearance. What would you do if your first date looked significantly different in real life? How would you react if your date…

While busy preparing for your first date, your phone rings. The voice says, “I’m sorry, something popped up at the last minute and I had to deal with it. Would it be better if we could meet up another day instead?” If this happens just before your first date, how would you react? To find the answer, we asked our users for their opinion on what they would do if this happened to them. Below are the results we collected from over 1000 respondents. For ages 18-25, the difference lies…

Written by: Flora and Bessie As Eileen Chang, the renowned Chinese writer once said, “Meeting someone amongst the endless sea of people, in the boundless dimension we call time, is rare. Nobody was early, nobody was late, and though neither had the intention to meet, two people met. Both of them couldn’t say much, only this: Oh, so you happen to be here as well?” These words reflected my emotions perfectly after I finished listening to Mr H and Ms M’s success story. It brought a tear to my eye.…

Someone gave this analogy: Going on a first date is the same as going to an interview. Before setting off, your mind will be swimming with thoughts that seem to unsettle you. You start rehearsing your so-called ‘self-introduction’ in your head, which you spent a huge chunk of your time memorizing. You tell yourself you have to make a good impression. You might be a ‘strong hire’ or just a ‘hire’. You might even be on the ‘weak hire’ list, or you might not even be considered for the role…

Meeting someone new in person for the first time would probably give you jitters. Some will feel extremely nervous, others will have the ability to suppress these feelings and not let them overwhelm them. Which group do you belong to? Does gender play a role in causing the difference? Does age affect your level of anxiousness? Curiosity got the best of us and we decided to create a survey to answer these questions. So for the past week, we asked our users: Would you feel nervous, anxious or worried on…

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