Across social media over the past month was a viral video of a man in Hangzhou rushing home on his bike late at night to give his keys to his girlfriend. Police stopped him for cycling haphazardly all over the road. He ended up having an emotional breakdown because all he wanted was to deliver the keys and get back to work. This video is the embodiment of the “996” culture in China. In China, “996” refers to a 9 am to 9 pm workday that lasts 6 days a…
Chinese Valentine’s Day is coming! Don’t want to be home alone watching TV and eating takeout? Dreading that call from your parents asking why you haven’t found someone yet? Settling into a new job or city and using that as an excuse to put off finding a relationship? Change all that.
This article was originally posted on datingadvice.com, a leading resource site featuring daily articles from renowned experts, Q&A sessions, research studies, a lively forum on all things dating. The Short Version: For Chinese singles living overseas, dating can be an incredibly frustrating balance between honoring traditional values and integrating modern, international styles. Many online dating sites and apps are too casual for Chinese daters or focus too much on hooking up and not enough on finding like-minded, long-term partners. That’s why 2RedBeans was founded. As a Chinese dating platform with more than 1.3…
It is often enviable to see couples loving each other equally. In reality, however, the number of couples who can love each other equally is very little. This situation often bothers us: between us, who is loving the other side more? As such, we have to make a choice: to love your partner more, prefer to be loved more, or choosing to accept a relationship where both sides love each other equally. We gathered the opinions of 2RedBeans’ users (we had over 1000 respondents!) and below are the results. The…
“My entire life I’ve devoted to my son.” This is what 39-year-old actor Yuchen Zhu’s 71-year-old mother said in the reality show My Little One (《我家那小子》). Just how true is that statement? Zhu’s mother described how, for the last 10 years, she wakes up at 4:00 am every morning just to boil him fresh pear juice and then cook his meals for the rest of the day. She says that the amount of work she does for the family is equivalent to that of two maids. And, although she had…
Some people say that true love is scarce. In your search for someone you truly love and who truly loves you, you might end up with someone who just barely meets your ‘requirements’... Here's the success story of Daniel and Rachael, who met each other through 2RedBeans. Daniel found himself single a year ago. His breakup devastated him. On top of that, he was reassigned to another department where he had to take on more responsibilities. It was stressful; he clocked in more than ten hours every day, overloading himself…
They never thought they would be considered ‘leftover men’ here in the United States. Coming from solid family backgrounds and armed with degrees from top schools, these men are unquestionably outstanding, according to China’s standards. They studied hard and worked diligently to get to where they are today. Now in their 30s, they are filled with a desire to settle down and start a family. However, the reality is, it’s not as easy as they thought it would be... Let us share the stories of these three outstanding single men…
Some people have come up with a checklist for their future partners. They must be… A graduate from a prestigious school, They must possess a Doctorate degree, They must either have filed Form I-485 or possess a green card. Our matchmakers sometimes stumble upon clients who impose strict requirements on their ideal marriage partner. “I want someone who must possess xxx qualities.” They insist on not one, but a few must-have qualities before they agree to meet their date. Things can get pretty awkward for our matchmakers because of this.…
In the past, moving in with your partner before marriage was thought of as immoral. However, these days it’s become so common that two thirds of couples have lived together beforehand. The perks of moving in with your partner before marriage can’t be denied. You get to experience first hand what it’s like living together and it can even serve as a trial run before the actual marriage. However, the success of your cohabitation may depend entirely on how early or late you move in together! 2RedBeans asked our users…
At 2RedBeans, we have a group of good-looking young professionals, known as our 2RedBeans’ matchmakers. They comb through our database, make and take phone calls, and conduct countless interviews just so our clients can meet the person they’re looking for. Come take a look at our matchmaking team’s office and find out what they do every day! Step 1: Letting you know that they are here to help. “Hi, I’m a matchmaker for 2RedBeans!” At 2RedBeans, people always tell us how their long hours, small social circles or their busy…
‘Why do my dates always seem to go wrong?” “I just can’t score that second date!” “I’m a masters graduate, but I can’t seem to find a girlfriend…” As you probably may have guessed, you might have overlooked the small details that happened during your date! Simultaneously talking and chewing your food, ex-boyfriend discussions… the list goes on. Often, such small details can make or break your date. As such, 2RedBeans presents a series of videos on the dos and don’ts for your dates! 1. Ordering Etiquette 2. Dining Etiquette…
You are bursting with excitement; you are about to meet your first date! She looks absolutely gorgeous and stunning from her profile photos. You can’t seem to contain your excitement as you walk into your meeting place. As you glance around, you see someone waving at you, but she looks horrifyingly unfamiliar. With the prevalence of beautifying filters in apps, it's common for people to "enhance" their physical appearance. What would you do if your first date looked significantly different in real life? How would you react if your date…
While busy preparing for your first date, your phone rings. The voice says, “I’m sorry, something popped up at the last minute and I had to deal with it. Would it be better if we could meet up another day instead?” If this happens just before your first date, how would you react? To find the answer, we asked our users for their opinion on what they would do if this happened to them. Below are the results we collected from over 1000 respondents. For ages 18-25, the difference lies…
Written by: Flora and Bessie As Eileen Chang, the renowned Chinese writer once said, “Meeting someone amongst the endless sea of people, in the boundless dimension we call time, is rare. Nobody was early, nobody was late, and though neither had the intention to meet, two people met. Both of them couldn’t say much, only this: Oh, so you happen to be here as well?” These words reflected my emotions perfectly after I finished listening to Mr H and Ms M’s success story. It brought a tear to my eye.…
Someone gave this analogy: Going on a first date is the same as going to an interview. Before setting off, your mind will be swimming with thoughts that seem to unsettle you. You start rehearsing your so-called ‘self-introduction’ in your head, which you spent a huge chunk of your time memorizing. You tell yourself you have to make a good impression. You might be a ‘strong hire’ or just a ‘hire’. You might even be on the ‘weak hire’ list, or you might not even be considered for the role…
Meeting someone new in person for the first time would probably give you jitters. Some will feel extremely nervous, others will have the ability to suppress these feelings and not let them overwhelm them. Which group do you belong to? Does gender play a role in causing the difference? Does age affect your level of anxiousness? Curiosity got the best of us and we decided to create a survey to answer these questions. So for the past week, we asked our users: Would you feel nervous, anxious or worried on…
Our CEO, Q Zhao, had the privilege to interview The Economist’s correspondent, Roseann Lake, on her new book “Leftover in China, The Women Shaping the World’s Next Superpower”. The interview touched on several topics which include: the “leftover women” phenomenon, the marriage issues they are facing and other unique problems they encounter in China. The book explored lives of four individual women against a backdrop of colourful anecdotes, citing interviews and research to show how these ‘leftover women’ are the linchpin to China’s future. The English edition of this book…
If you are still single in three years, would you start to adjust and perhaps, lower your expectations for your future partner? Our experiences shape our thinking as we grow. Our expectations, needs and wants are constantly remodeled after these experiences. As we grow older each year -- it’s already 2018 --, do we raise our expectations as well? More specifically, when it comes to relationships, do we also raise the expectations we have for our future partner, assuming you’re still single of course? In this week’s survey, we tackled…
“2018. New year, new resolutions, new me.” We often tell ourselves to trust our feelings, feelings of love, and go with them. As Amelia Brand, portrayed by Anna Hathaway in the movie “Interstellar”, famously said in the movie: “Maybe it (love) means something more - something we can't yet understand. Maybe it's some evidence, some artifact of a higher dimension that we can't consciously perceive…… Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends dimensions of time and space. Maybe we should trust that, even if we can't…
To end the year with a boom, in this week’s survey for our 2RedBeans users, we decide to touch on a sensitive, provocative yet intriguing topic: friends with benefits, or FWB in short. The definition of FWB is as such: a relationship that has companionship (the friends part) that involves something intimate, such as making out and sex (the benefits part). Let’s jump right into the numbers, shall we? *rubs hands* The results Out of the 357 male respondents, 67.8% of them are open to such relationships. Interestingly, 91% of…
