Should you show your true colors in the early stage of dating?

After graduating with a PhD in Pharmacology, a classmate introduced a guy who works in the financial industry to her. In order to make a good first impression, she made “active” preparations. Considering that he works in Manhattan where women are fashionable, she bought a sexy short skirt and changed her look entirely. Then, she also tried to cram in on financial knowledge, even though she had never even opened a stock account before. On the day of the date, before he could even speak a word, she talked about her investment experience in the past six months. She wanted to create an image of a mature, intelligent and independent woman. Unexpectedly to her, the dating experience was extremely embarrassing. Her date didn’t say much, but left with an excuse in a hurry. Afterwards, her classmate who introduced them got a feedback from her date that she was very different from the initial information he got.

After three dates, I have reaped more than just love

My name is V. “I am not spending my birthday alone next year”. This was my 29th birthday wish. I had friends planning on getting married, and friends planning on having a second child, whereas I’ve been stuck my head into work all these years, I felt like my life is so behind. Trying out 2RedBeans’ one on one service was just a gamble, after all, relationships are so complicated, love happens and ends without any signs, entering an exclusive relationship within three dates sounds like mission impossible.

I invested so much into you. Why wouldn’t you respond to my love

I invested so much into you. Why wouldn't you respond to my love? Just because you are so invested in someone doesn’t always guarantee a good result. Before you two establish a relationship, he/she has no obligation to respond to you with an equal amount of love. Asking such a question simply does more harm than good. When we don’t receive positive feedback for the effort we put into someone, it’s easy to feel out of balance.

Why do I have a hard time feeling his/her love?

We have been collecting dating feedback from our friends and we found that there’s a huge difference when it comes to perception of love. Some people can describe their feelings accurately: “When she smiled at me, I can feel my heartbeat raising.”“We have a smooth conversation, but the spark is kind of missing.”

After dating online for five months, they finally met when the Canada-US border reopens

Today’s story is about Jude and Ann, a magnificent couple. Jude is forty-two years old, born in Guangzhou, Ann is forty years old, born in Beijing. Their personalities had a world of difference, and they weren’t each other’s ideal partner either. One worked in the U.S. while the other worked in Canada, distance and time-zone almost became a roadblock in their love journey. The possibility of their overlap was nearly impossible, but under 2RedBeans matchmaker Bessie’s introduction, they had their first video date this March. The two stayed on the phone for an entire five hour until their phone ran out of battery. After that, they would make long phone calls to make up for the time lost in each other’s past, the longest phone call being nineteen hours.

I’ve never dated before, what can I do to be in a relationship?

Recently, We’ve received a message that goes like: “I’ve never dated anyone before, what can I do to start a relationship? 母胎solo, single since birth, refers to people who’ve never dated their entire life. In fact they aren’t a minority. According to the National Bureau of Statistics and Ministry of Civil Affairs of 2019, Among China’s 240 million singles, 34% have never been in a relationship.

When looking for a partner, would you prefer someone with more or less experience?

When looking for a partner, would you prefer someone with more or less experience? Regarding this question, we started a survey and here are the feedbacks. Some said they would prefer someone with less experience: “those who has been through a lot inevitably become more realistic, weighing out the pros and cons. I want a purer relationship if it means for them to have no experience at all.

3 steps for sending a perfect first message

Sending a good first message is important if you want to attract the person you approach online or meet in real life.   Here are three steps for crafting your first message: 1. Include their name “Hi, Cindy!” or “Good afternoon, Ben!” Addressing them by name will start building rapport immediately and give off a good first impression. 2. Write sincere and meaningful compliments  “I love your eyes in the pictures with you smiling. They really brighten my day!”  Everyday compliments won’t attract someone’s attention. Try to point out something…

36 questions that will make you fall in love

Have you ever experienced this? Awkward conversations on dates or conversations that never goes deeper? Psychologist Arthur Aron has developed a solution. 36 personal questions that will help you to get to know each other better. Research shows that intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated if both are willing to share personal details. If you want to know more about the 36 Questions, or if you have any other questions about dating or relationships, click here to make an appointment with a professional matchmaker from 2RedBeans! Below are the…

Try to work it out or give up on a relationship?

Data released by the National Bureau of Statistics and Ministry of Civil Affairs shows that the marriage rate among unmarried people is at a 5 year low of 7.2‰. Conversely, the divorce rate has been increasing steadily for the past 7 years. Nearly 40% of marriages do not last more than 2 years. According to research by China’s Justice Big Data Research Institute on 1.4 million divorce cases, the top reason for a divorce is incompatibility, which stands at 77.51%. This number far exceeds the second top reason for a…

The best way one can express their love is to truly understand their other half

Finding someone who’s outstanding in their profession? Easy. Finding someone who can take care of you? Easy. But can you find someone who you can truly understand you? Why do we place so much importance on the need to understand your other half? When someone understands you for you who are, you will then have the freedom to be yourself A friend of a matchmaker at 2RedBeans recently relocated to San Francisco for work. This brought her into a long distance relationship with her boyfriend, who works in New York…

The women who are so hard on themselves…

“My Little One”, an entertainment show airing in Hunan, recently received a lot of attention. The show invites the fathers of female celebrities to watch the everyday lives of their daughters. As all of these women are single, it was inevitable that the discussions among the dads would center around this fact. Miss Xin, who is turning 35 this year, was one of the celebrities getting the most attention. Her career has plateaued and she’s had no luck with relationships. She’s worried about career advancement and about how marriage and…

All your relationship and dating questions answered

This 520, 2RedBeans had a “Makeover for Singles” event to help answer your relationship and dating questions. With more than 600 responses, there was a large variety of questions asked. We grouped these questions into five main topics and had our matchmakers answer them for you. Our matchmakers may have the answers you’re looking for This week, we will be picking one lucky winner who will receive our high-end matchmaking consultation service valued at $3500. Questions involving communication Q: How long should I chat on dating app before meeting the…

Dating Unsuccessfully? Your Blind Spots Could Be Why

Have you ever looked through profiles on 2RedBeans and noticed a few people with photos that looked different from their other photos? As if their photos were of two completely different people? How do you know which photo is the one that is truly representative of themselves? We discovered that when people swipe through profiles, the photo they believe represents the person is the one that looks “most realistic”. However, when our matchmakers met clients who had profiles on 2RedBeans, they realized most of them looked better in real life…

How assumptions about a person can do more harm than good

The Chinese drama All Is Well has captured the attention of many Chinese viewers. The most discussed character has been Mingzhe, the oldest brother in the show, who went back home to help his father and siblings after his mother died. With a bachelor from Qinghua, a graduate degree from Stanford, a green card in the US, a decent job and a happy family, he’s undoubtedly his family’s pride and joy. However, beneath the surface lies a vain, selfish and arrogant person whose personality has burdened his family more than…

2RedBeans Dating 101: How to understand someone inside out within three dates

During every post-date consultation, our 2RedBeans matchmakers often receive feedback and comments such as: “Hmm… We had a nice conversation, but I’m still unsure if she is suitable for me since I didn’t feel anything special about her…” “He takes the initiative and we have been on a few dates, but I still feel that I don’t know him well…” To most people, the tough part about dates is the fact that they are unsure if their dates are suitable for them. They get along with their date well enough,…

Find yourself before you find love

“He’s a pretty good guy and I would say our date went pretty well. However, that’s it.” This isn’t the first time the matchmaking team at 2RedBeans has heard stories like this after our clients’ dates. It usually happens to those who don’t have as much dating experience. In part, this results from a misunderstanding between two people. Mostly, it stems from a lack of understanding of oneself. Before we go out and search for that special someone, we need to ask ourselves, “Who am I really?” Only after truly…

Put more focus on your own happiness

On the show “My Little One’, Papi酱, a famous YouTuber, made a comment about how one should prioritize their life. She believed they should go in this order: Yourself, your partner, your children, your parents. Why does she think this way? She reasoned you spend the most time with yourself. The next person to take up most of your time is your partner since your children and parents won’t be around you forever. The response on social media was not good with many saying she was thinking selfishly. Papi’s comment…

No Tiffany’s for Valentine’s

Valentine’s Day is here again. Every year, one of our colleagues gets together with their closest friends to have dinner. Every year, the subject of Valentine’s Day comes up. Last week was no exception. You can probably guess that everyone was sharing their plans. Some were talking about pre-ordering Tiffany, Cartier and Swarovski for their girlfriends. Others were talking about their reservations at Michelin star restaurants. When they asked Tina about her plans with Jim, her boyfriend, she simply said, “ We’re spending Valentine’s Day at home.” No one was…

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